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How to Get Off of Punishment Early
If you are not allowed to leave the house, watch television, or under some other form of long-term punishment, you might be able to get out of it early. Parents and guardians sometimes regret giving out a harsh punishment while they're angry, and might be convinced to lessen it. Even if it hurts you pride, the most effective strategy to accomplish this is to make your parents happy and show them that you can follow their rules.
Getting Back in Your Parents' Good Graces
Volunteer to do chores.Show that you're willing to help out your parents or guardians, and they may be less angry or strict. Wash the dishes, take out the trash, or clean up after a younger siblings.
Don't break the rules of the punishment.If you're serious about trying to get the punishment to end early, follow the restrictions your parents have put down. If they discover you didn't obey them, they may even increase the length of your punishment.
Be polite to everyone, not just your parents.Your parents might watch your behavior to siblings, older relatives, and family friends when deciding whether to keep punishing you. Be nice to your siblings or anyone else who lives in your house, and make an effort to talk politely with your parents' friends.
Spend time with your parents.Retreating to your room and sulking may make your parents more irritated at you. One of the most convincing ways to show you're making an effort is to volunteer to go with them to family events, such as visiting relatives or visiting a restaurant. If you're too angry to stay polite with your parents, try an activity that doesn't involve much talking, such as watching a movie together.
Wait a while before you ask for reduced punishment.Your parents probably know that you're acting extra-nice because you want to get off punishment. The longer you keep acting this way, preferably a few days or more for a longer-term punishment, the more likely you are to convince your parents that you deserve less punishment.
Asking for Reduced Punishment
Try talking to just one parent or guardian.You may find it easier to have a conversation with just one person at a time. This is especially true if one parent is stricter or angrier at you than the other one.
Find a good time to talk.Ask your parent whether he is busy before you ask your question. Make it clear that you want to talk about the punishment before you begin talking.If he seems irritated or distracted, ask whether there is a better time to talk to him.
Apologize.It may hurt your pride, especially if you do not think you did anything wrong. However, your parent does, and she probably won't change her mind on the punishment unless you agree with her.
Don't make excuses.When you apologize, don't try to pass on the blame to someone else, or even part of the blame. You may explain briefly why it happened, but it's best only to talk about your own actions.
Use "I" statements to describe how you are affected by the punishment.Talk about your own feelings, and avoid using the word "you," which can sound accusing. For instance, "I take a walk outside when I need to relax, so I feel stressed when I'm not allowed to leave the house." or "I know I did something bad, but I'm not sure this punishment is giving me the opportunity to show I can do better."
Suggest the chance to earn back your privileges slowly.This works best for long term punishments, such as grounding that lasts several weeks or months. For instance, ask for the ability to leave the house, but with an earlier curfew. If you show you can follow these terms, your parents might continue to reduce the punishment or end it early.
- Some experts on parenting recommend that parents follow this strategy. Be cautious about telling this to your parents, though. They may not appreciate their child telling them about good parenting practices.
Suggest an alternate punishment.Your parents might let you exchange your current punishment for another one. Depending on the situation, you might ask to have extra chore duties, be banned from television and computers for a certain amount of time, or find a tutor for your schoolwork.
- Your parents probably know which punishments you find easy to handle. Suggest a serious alternative punishment, just one that will restrict you in a different way.
If this doesn't work, try again in a few days.Listen to your parent's response. If she does not agree to your suggestions, just end the conversation as politely as you can. Arguing back is more likely to result in increased punishment, not less. For longer term punishments, you can try again in a couple days, after emotions have lessened.
QuestionWhat do I do if my mom does nothing but interrupt me and put words in my mouth, and my dad yells at me?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIt would be best to stay quiet and not come back with any arguments to make the situation worse. Hopefully once they see you are calm, they will calm down and you can all work it out.Thanks!
QuestionWhat do I do if I'm on a day of punishment, and my parents are saying there's no way it's changing?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerAccept the punishment, and try to focus on being glad it is only for one day. Think about the things you want to do tomorrow once the punishment is over.Thanks!
QuestionWhat if my parents just refuse to talk about the issue every time I try to bring it up?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerAsk them why they don't want to talk about it. A why in a situation like this could help.Thanks!
QuestionHow do I get out of a punishment for bad grades?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerTry to bring your grades up! Try to do extra credit papers and/or study for tests extra hard. This will show your parents that you are responsible, and they might unground you.Thanks!
QuestionWhat if my parents say no and I'm punished for a whole three months?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerFind a new hobby. While you're enjoying your hobby, time will go by faster. Also, there's a chance your parents will shorten your punishment if you behave yourself, take care of your responsibilities at home, get good grades, etc. Don't count on it, but it's possible!Thanks!
QuestionWhat if I do talk back?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf you talk back, you're not taking responsibility for your words and actions. You probably won't get off your punishment early, and your parents might even make your punishment longer.Thanks!
QuestionWhat do I do if I'm trying to get out of a punishment by being good and it's not working?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerIf you are trying as hard as you can and it is not working, you could do one of two things. The first one is you could just accept your punishment. The second option is to politely ask if your punishment can be reduced. If the answer is still no, you will just have to just accept it.Thanks!
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- Stay on your best behavior for a while after the punishment ends early. Your parents might be keeping an eye on you to see if they made the right decision.
- Crying too dramatically or criticizing yourself too harshly might just get on your parents' nerves. Avoid statements like "I'm a terrible person, I deserve this, I hate myself."
- Don't become too stressed out during the punishment.
- If it was a favorite book/electronic/toy that was taken away as a punishment, don't try to take it back behind your parents/guardians back, it will only make the punishment worse.
- Show your parents you are willing to grow up and mature. Take your punishment like an adult, and maybe your parents could notice that you are willing to learn from your mistakes and may be lenient with you.
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